Do You Hear Or Do You Listen

You Can’t Learn If You Can’t Listen

Have you ever watched two people when they are talking? Two kids might not appear to be listening at all, but instead both be chattering away, totally oblivious to what the other is saying. Two people in love might look as though the one who is listening’s life is dependent on what the other is saying. And sometimes with older people, it is hard to tell if they are even both on the same topic of conversation, or whether partial deafness is permitting them to cover several topics at the same time.

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There is of course a world of difference between hearing something and listening to it. I hear birds all day long where I live on the farm, but a true bird aficionado could tell you what species of bird it is, etc because they don’t just hear the bird calls, they listen to them.

Why We Don’t Listen

There are a number of reasons why we don’t listen. We may not be interested or motivated, we may have heard it all before a thousand times, or, we may agree so completely with the message, that we feel we no longer need to listen to the words.

LearnAt other times we might be so in disagreement with the message, that we won’t even attempt to listen. Our mind is closed and that is that. If you have ever had teenage children (or been one yourself), I’m sure you have experienced this type of non-listening. It happens in business too when people have pre-conceived notions and opinions about being a landlord (always fixing tenant’s toilets), or network marketing (just another of them pyramid scams).

How Do You Listen?-It Makes A Difference

3 basic ways of listening.

1. Listening in agreement

This is where your thoughts are aligned with the words of the person who is talking. You’re nodding your head or saying amen under your breath, or saying right on brother.

2. Listening in disagreement

Your face shows disbelief or scorn, perhaps a touch of disgust and your lips are parted. You can’t wait for the other person to finish talking (and sometimes you don’t), before you unleash your volley of words that indicate just exactly how you feel the world should be. In your opinion, of course.

3. Tune in tomorrow to find out this oneQuestion

Tomorrow we are going to look at some examples of these types of listening and how ridiculous they can become. We are then going to talk about the third type of listening, the one that you should employ when you are dealing with clients or other business prospects. If you use it when talking to you your spouse, I guarantee that you will see positive and incredible results within just a single week of using it.

Try it at work. You will be amazed at the difference this type of listening can make.

Till Next Time

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10 Responses to “Do You Hear Or Do You Listen”

  1. Joan Harrington Says:

    Fantastic post Sigrid!!! It is so important to be the right kind of listener!

    Thank you for sharing!!

    Take care,
    Joan
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    Sigrid McNab Reply:

    Excellent point Joan.

    Listening is perhaps both the most underrated, and the most important skill.
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  2. Luke Blower Says:

    It’s funny, I am always on at my son (he’s three) to listen, but it’s something that so many of us adults find difficult too.
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    Sigrid McNab Reply:

    Very true Luke. Getting older doesn’t necessarily mean getting wiser.
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  3. Ryan Biddulph Says:

    If you can be open, and present, listening becomes easy because you let go all ego objectives….easy to do? Hell nah, in the beginning at least hahaha!

    Wonderful points Sigrid. I owe my prolific nature to listening, to nature most of all and to those around me.

    Thanks!
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    Sigrid McNab Reply:

    If we listen, we can learn a lot from nature can’t we Ryan?

    Thanks so much for sharing…
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  4. Adam Payne Says:

    Great stuff Sigrid.

    Just sent a broadcast to my blog on this very subject. Though you put it much better. As Simon Sinek says, communication isn’t about speaking, it’s about listening.

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    Sigrid McNab Reply:

    I agree Adam. The most difficult role to play in any conversation is that of the listener.
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  5. sherman smith Says:

    Hey Sigrid, great introduction. I look forward to reading the next post on this topic!
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    Sigrid McNab Reply:

    Hope you’ll enjoy reading it as much as I did writing it Sherman.
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